HE INSISTS THAT FEMINISM MUST MAKE EQUAL TIME FOR MEN AND MEN’S ISSUES.
This can also be described as the “Dear God, what about the men?” syndrome, and unfortunately it’s not just male feminists that are prone to it. To make matters worse, there seems to be an ever-increasing attitude that in order for feminism to be relevant, it must become less about women and more about men. This is as offensive as it is detrimental. While it is true the Patriarchy Hurts Men, Too™, the fact of the matter is that the problems that men face that don’t stem from class, race, sexuality, or able-bodiedness issues tend to stem from socially ingrained misogyny. It is a systemic devaluation of femininity that creates the rigidly defined masculinity by which men must abide. If men have a problem with masculinity as it currently exists, perhaps they should consider increasing the social status and viability of femininity in all people. They could also address the notion that femininity and masculinity are not mutually exclusive.
Feminist men need to understand that their liberation from standards of masculinity goes hand in hand with smashing patriarchal misogynistic social structures. Instead of listing off the problems that he feels feminists aren’t addressing (and thus expecting women to drop everything and mommy him – a sexist expectation in the first place), he can either begin to address them himself or try to recognize how intersectionality affects oppression. The fact of the matter is that feminists should not have to dedicate 50% of time and resources to men’s issues.
So yes, men have issues. However, in no way, shape, or form are they of the same caliber as the problems and oppression facing women. If he is intent on making feminism about men, or inflating the issues that men face in order to play Oppression Olympics with the women he is conversing and organizing with, he is a fauxminist. Seriously: the minute he mentions the draft just stop listening.